When you treat your helper with dignity and respect, you’re not only fulfilling your moral responsibility, you’re also creating a home environment where she can do her best work. A happy, supported helper is more motivated, loyal, and productive. At Humanskills Employment Agency, we encourage all employers to create a healthy and positive space for their helpers. Here are practical ways to build a respectful and harmonious working relationship at home:
1. Provide a Comfortable Living Space
Your helper’s living area should be clean, well-ventilated, and private. It doesn’t need to be fancy, but it should be safe and give her a space to rest and recharge.
Tip:
Avoid placing her in the storeroom or in a shared space like the living room. Small gestures like giving her a bedside table or curtain for privacy can make a big difference.
2. Show Appreciation for Her Work
Helpers often do repetitive and tiring tasks quietly in the background. A little recognition can go a long way in making her feel valued.
Tip:
Say “thank you” when tasks are done well. Compliment her cooking. Let her know she’s doing a good job. A kind word motivates more than we realise.
3. Be Clear, but Respectful with Instructions
Giving instructions in a polite and non-threatening tone helps reduce anxiety and confusion. Your helper may not understand things the same way you do, especially if she’s still adjusting to your routines.
Tip:
Use “please” and “can you” instead of commands. Example: “Can you please mop the floor after lunch?” rather than “Mop the floor now.”
4. Respect Her Mealtimes and Food Preferences
FDWs are entitled to proper meals each day. Try to accommodate her food preferences, when possible, especially if she follows religious dietary restrictions.
Tip:
Check if she needs to avoid pork, or if she’s vegetarian. If she cooks for the family, allow her time to prepare her own food too.
5. Allow Her Personal Time and Rest
Your helper needs mental and physical rest, just like anyone else. Overloading her with non-stop tasks or interrupting her during rest time can lead to burnout and mistakes.
Tip:
Respect her off days. During rest hours, let her use her phone or call family without interference.
6. Celebrate Special Occasions
Recognising her birthday or festivals like Hari Raya, Deepavali, or Christmas can make her feel included and appreciated.
Tip:
A simple card, treat, or small gift shows you care. These moments can strengthen the bond between your helper and your family.
Final Thoughts
Creating a positive environment doesn’t cost muchbut the rewards are great. Helpers who feel respected are more likely to stay longer, be more dependable, and take pride in their work.
At Humanskills Employment Agency, we believe that good relationships start with mutual respect. Whether you’re a first-time employer or experienced one, we’re here to support you every step of the way.
